tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post1883863926005819429..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: Do What I Tell You, and Do It Correctly the First Time.Angeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-3365761858422863342015-01-21T19:56:24.554-06:002015-01-21T19:56:24.554-06:00My wife would never write me something like this, ...My wife would never write me something like this, but I wonder if she shares some of the same feelings. Sometimes I'm an ass... vs-boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-40650388991343027402015-01-14T20:27:19.165-06:002015-01-14T20:27:19.165-06:00It is always good to see You moving toward more co...It is always good to see You moving toward more control at Your own pace. At this point punishment is necessary. While spanking does work well and normally rather quickly, if You are not ready, You are not ready. i like the repetitive task for a week or month. i also like corner time, with a bare ass. It helps make the point. i also support chastity. i also support panties. You knight will know his position when he is wearing panties. The bottom line is this is about Your wants and needs, with love and respect for each other. At the moment You are not getting the respect You deserve and knight is not communicating effectively. Please continue to move forward and increasing Your control. dualpurposehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06209961346891113125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-13322237884697468392015-01-14T15:31:43.170-06:002015-01-14T15:31:43.170-06:00Wow... amazing writing. IMHO, this could be about...Wow... amazing writing. IMHO, this could be about boundaries. He needs you to set them and not give him multiple chances. You will probably see collateral improvements in your life in other areas outside of your relationship with Knight. My wife was having trouble setting boundaries anywhere so people were walking all over her. Through practice with me she now has seen improvements in her professional life.<br /><br />I agree with others, the FLR should be about you. Tonight do something you want (read a book, etc.) while he gives you a massage. That should be the default. If he is lucky you do something he wants. Let go of the guilt?<br /><br />As to punishments, make them something boring but useful around the house? Nothing is a worse punishment for someone with ADHD than having to do something boring. Spanking would likely be interesting and therefore not actually work unless you took it to point where he seriously didn't like it which it sounds like you wouldn't be ok with.<br /><br />Random idea... how about he wears ear plugs/headphones to block out the sound (play something he hates) while giving you a massage. You in turn watch a movie that he was looking forward to. He also is not allowed to look at the screen. He then is never allowed to watch that movie...<br /><br />Ponderinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02045248084037830482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-79194614369021861172015-01-13T22:23:25.111-06:002015-01-13T22:23:25.111-06:00Congrats for letting him know that his behavior is...Congrats for letting him know that his behavior is unacceptable and he will be punished if he doesn't shape up. And I think keeping him locked is a good way to keep him in a submissive mindset. It doesn't have to be a punishment, just a sign that you are in charge and he must obey.<br /><br />FDFlorida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-47641678765844499162015-01-13T21:55:23.222-06:002015-01-13T21:55:23.222-06:00First, let me apologize to you. In my excitement f...First, let me apologize to you. In my excitement from reading that you are considering male chastity, I realized that I made it sound like locking him up is the answer to all your problems. In actuality, taking control of his sexuality is just another wrench in your toolbox to train Knight to be the best submissive husband that he can be. I guess I'm just so sold on it because I have experienced the changes firsthand. Best of luck on your progress. I'm one of your biggest cheerleaders.Wishful4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02244435462944676133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-90210675195553205832015-01-13T20:07:37.164-06:002015-01-13T20:07:37.164-06:00Very powerful and wonderful. I can't see how y...Very powerful and wonderful. I can't see how you could be clearer in your expectations. I dearly hope his response was as candid, thoughtful and respectful.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00587283081895557018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-81947371197253867592015-01-13T16:56:47.342-06:002015-01-13T16:56:47.342-06:00I Mistress Marie would come in here and restore or...I Mistress Marie would come in here and restore order in your house Angelique! Mistress Marie made similar comments early on in my FLM and Mistress K. took heed. It's why Mistress K. likes Mistress Marie so much.sub hub in phxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489169642204094414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-88396335477900458512015-01-13T16:43:11.100-06:002015-01-13T16:43:11.100-06:00What a great post! Now that you are at least consi...What a great post! Now that you are at least considering the use of a chastity device, let me make a few suggestions. Don't use the device as punishment. What the device will do, over time, to to change the way he thinks and looks at you. While wearing the device will not necessarily be a punishment. Being unlocked and getting a release can be used as a reward. He will quickly learn that, if you are not happy with his performance, extending his locked time will be the result. This could certainly be an alternative if you are less than comfortable with spanking. There is a lot of info about including male chastity into your relationship at www.chastityforums.com plus a keyholder only hidden forum where you can ask questions of the other ladies there. If you do get a device, give him some time, in which he holds the keys, to get used to wearing it and dealing with it, on a daily basis, then have him turn the keys over to you. In just a few weeks, you will be amazed at the change in him. Wishful4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02244435462944676133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-25887388216589537342015-01-13T16:02:23.532-06:002015-01-13T16:02:23.532-06:00I am interested to know how he responded?
Excel...I am interested to know how he responded? <br /><br />Excellent post. He is lucky to have you. He needs to get his act together and fast! <br /><br />If you dont feel comfortable in spankings perhaps something different. Like that book shelf. Make him move it from your office. Axk to where it was and then back to your office again every single day for a month. If he forgets to do dishes make him remove every dish in the kitchen and wash dry and put them all away again. He'll quickly learn it would be easier to do the job right from the start and to remember it. Also during times of punishment allow him to know you love him but don't allow him any intimate pleasure or fun. Mistress Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17378867322387589081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-83003586879403602242015-01-13T13:59:26.010-06:002015-01-13T13:59:26.010-06:00Miss Angelique, if I may ....... you said "...Miss Angelique, if I may ....... you said "I need to concentrate more on what I want, rather than always being concerned how my actions effect you" I know it's only my opinion but i think it should say "I need to concentrate ONLY on what I want, rather than EVER being concerned how my actions effect you"<br /><br />In my mind it is the cornerstone of a true FLR. Anything else (less) is merely a role playing game. This very thing was what I had contemplated for months prior to revealing my desires to lead a Female Led Marriage to my wife. I needed to know that I would be happy with nothing less. I also needed to know that my then vanilla wife understood that even though it may appear that I may appear resistant to her authority on the outside, it is truly what need (and want on the inside). <br /><br />My guess is that your husband is merely waiting for you to actually take control of your marriage, and that can only happen if you can truly be comfortable with the notion that is ALL and ONLY about you, and not at all about him. In that light, you'll both have what you want.<br /><br />It's only my opinion. I could be wrong, but i don't think I am.<br /><br />Best regards,<br /><br />S.H.I.P.sub hub in phxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489169642204094414noreply@blogger.com