tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post3204130680152506661..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: Why I wonder. Angeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-79159629769888893062016-06-15T18:44:14.313-05:002016-06-15T18:44:14.313-05:00I applaud the thought you give to what you are doi...I applaud the thought you give to what you are doing. I enjoy submissive fantasy and role play a lot, but I react to FLR blogs much the same way your daughter reacts to what she sees. I often see a meanness that really turns me off, especially where the wife uses heavy corporal punishment. My Mom was often horrible to my Dad (it had nothing to do with the types of FLR behaviors your daughter witnesses), and it bothers me even now that he's been dead for 18 years. <br /><br />That said, I do see the husbands say they want it that way, and you have the right to whatever consensual arrangement you both agree on. But, it will probably always be tough for your daughter to "get" it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-21763774372049089732016-06-14T17:32:17.853-05:002016-06-14T17:32:17.853-05:00A wonderful post. So many ideas stimulated for di...A wonderful post. So many ideas stimulated for discussion. I would love to come visit you and just talk and talk and talk.<br /><br />My wife uses those words "everybody should be treated exactly the same" and makes comment that I am strange to think that someone needs to be in charge and yet she is a control freak. To me there is refreshing honesty when people acknowledge what the relationship is. submanhubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04979339663861061771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-65467329859564368282016-06-14T09:05:53.806-05:002016-06-14T09:05:53.806-05:00Ma'm. I just discovered you blog and I am del...Ma'm. I just discovered you blog and I am delighted. It is thoughtful and well written. Thank you. I do invite you to review my own. I would be honored to have you as a follower.<br /><br />best,<br /><br />rAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-24886667263893703892016-06-13T16:52:07.390-05:002016-06-13T16:52:07.390-05:00Ms Angelique,
You seem to have things well in han...Ms Angelique,<br /><br />You seem to have things well in hand and you know what you need to do, you just need a little "push", for lack of a better word, to do it. Maybe "seeing the light" wasn't my best choice of words, but I'm not a great writer either.<br /><br />One thing came to mind when you discussed Knights habit of occasionally testing limits and you may not have thought of this. He may need some confidence that you are going to "walk the walk" on your end of the FLR. Us men think in goofy ways. For example, my spouse wants me locked in my chastity device at all times at home unless she says otherwise. I think, in her mind, she expects me to lock up immediately when we return home without being told. However, sometimes I will delay relocking just to see if she will enforce her rules or even notice that I did not lock up. But, in my mind, I sometimes need to be reassured that she still wants to be my KeyHolder and cares whether I am locked or not. Our thinking is totally opposite one another, however, in the end, we both want the same thing and that is for her to be in charge. Don't know if my point is clear or not, but maybe Knight just wants to make sure you are still in the FLR game and not backing off. In fact, his actions may mean he actually wants you to exercise even more control.<br /><br />As far as the kids go, isn't it amazing that the minute they reach young adulthood, they automatically know more than their parents ever did. Ours are the same way. I think my response to the claim of abuse would be, "if you don't believe what your father says, I certainly can't convince you that he wants me in control". Hang in there. Eventually, they will see that you are right because actions speak louder than words. Wishful4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02244435462944676133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-43971990648794256532016-06-13T13:22:18.470-05:002016-06-13T13:22:18.470-05:00I've been thinking about this very subject lat...I've been thinking about this very subject lately. My most recent post talks about fairness. It seems to me that there is a belief that loss of choice is loss of fairness. My wife's role isn't so much dictator as it is parent. That doesn't mean I'm a child.It means that I am happier with an authoritative partner. I expect you have a similar situation.<br /><br />I can imagine how difficult it is when either your knight or daughter get upset about your leadership. One way to manage any issues with him is to do a regular renewal of consent. Perhaps once a year you could have a little private ceremony where he asks you to take complete charge. That reminds you both of your respective roles.<br /><br />It seems to me that you can't win with your daughter. What parent ever wins in that arena? A simple, "That's the way he and I want to lead our lives." is probably all you can say without weakening your position. She could, of course, ask him how he feels about it. It seems to me that it's less that there is any appearance of abuse than her personal opinions not being accepted by you as the "correct" way to live.<br /><br />Sounds like you know exactly what you need to keep doing. Trust yourself and your relationship.cagedlionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12692053416460861318noreply@blogger.com