tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post7511936492709161237..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: Something to Think AboutAngeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-68567926105171204122012-04-18T18:31:01.346-05:002012-04-18T18:31:01.346-05:00I'm sure every situation is different but I fi...I'm sure every situation is different but I find that some of the best times to talk honestly and deeply with Katie is while I massage her body while she lays in bed. The room is dark, we are close and it's easy to just talk and share in the quiet of the night.I'm-Hershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04303339046471886645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-9061032964663380622012-04-18T13:19:59.658-05:002012-04-18T13:19:59.658-05:00I'm Hers - I do read your blog regularly. I st...I'm Hers - I do read your blog regularly. I started reading your blog and several others three or four months before I approached my husband with the FLR idea. I wanted to read the words of "openly" submissive men to get and idea of 1. what to expect from my husband, 2.What he expected from me and 3. to get an idea if I was even on the right track with this. <br /><br />Yours was one of the blogs that I found, and still find, helpful.<br /><br />I'd like my husband to blog about our FLR -- He is a semi-pro writer, after all. Writing is part of who he is. But he's not there yet. I've suggested that he start a private journal so he has a place to work things out in his own head. I asked him to write it on Google Docs, and share it with me, but told him I won't read it if he really does not want to. He started the page but hasn't written anything.<br /><br />I think you're right. I need to start setting aside time just to talk about the FLR aspect of things. We still have 4 kids at home and things get pretty busy around here. It's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day.Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-44574023582857227102012-04-17T00:49:44.099-05:002012-04-17T00:49:44.099-05:00Angelique,
I too am glad to see that you are back ...Angelique,<br />I too am glad to see that you are back blogging. I thought you had given up after such an extended absence. I just found you by chance tonight. As to your sutuation, I can't help but think that there is a bit of insecurity revealing itself on the part of your husband. He was having issues with you - not understanding why you were acting as you were but didn't come to you to talk about it and share his feelings and to hear your thoughts. <br /><br />I have been where he was last month. Maybe the two of you need to have personal time where you can stay connected on a daily basis. Maybe you should come with some very pointed questions can ask with the expectation that he will answer honestly, even if he feels you are treading on sensitive ground. I think it would be good for him and good for you. I haven't read your most current post but will do so now. Take care and I invite you to read my blog as well if it is an interest to you or your husband....... and with that said, I find it helpful to read a select group of other blogs written by submissive men. It helps me to maintain a type of support group as being a sub can be tough at times. I also find writing my own blog to be helpful in expressing those thoughts that come to mind with respect to living under the thumb of a lovind Domme..... he may benefit from that same 'outlet' as well.I'm-Hershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04303339046471886645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-81268120098978300542012-03-30T14:41:54.568-05:002012-03-30T14:41:54.568-05:00Thanks, Robert.Thanks, Robert.Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-34461331067623274102012-03-30T14:41:38.294-05:002012-03-30T14:41:38.294-05:00Thanks for the advice, Miss Christina. You're ...Thanks for the advice, Miss Christina. You're right, I think. Even before we started FLR he seemed to never be sure where he stood with me. More than once he would assume I was unhappy with something he did when I wasn't simply because, in his own mind he had let me down -- even though I may not have seen it that way.I need to work on doing a better job of being the leader he wants me to be, and giving a clear ending to rule infractions. This is a learning process for me.Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-91449856296317039982012-03-29T19:20:22.215-05:002012-03-29T19:20:22.215-05:00Interesting post...so sorry that so many things se...Interesting post...so sorry that so many things seemed to go wrong for you. That is never fun. Congrats to hubby on the better job.<br /><br />When it comes to punishment I feel it is important to have a beginning, middle and end of it, so that it is very clear for both involved what it has begun, is taking place and is done. Sometimes this is easy when it is a punishment that is delivered fairly fast and is done and over with, but when it is taking place over a duration of time it is even more important to communicate this way these misunderstandings do not happen.<br /><br />A punishment could be taking away his computer time unsupervised for a month. He would know when it starts, when it was taking place and then at the end have a discussion about it to provide closure. Although in your case some of his rules changed for good. <br /><br />One thing I think is important is to provide the forgiveness right at the start. Unless of course there is a flat out lie involved. If someone makes a mistake and doesn't lie about it, I like to forgive, and then punish and then provide some closure. Submissives can be very insecure and of course they hate to let us down and they certainly do not want us mad. I think that if you can provide that closer when the punishment has been served to make it clear you are not mad and he is forgiven may help with this in the future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-76681650726622529282012-03-28T14:10:46.114-05:002012-03-28T14:10:46.114-05:00Good to have you back.Good to have you back.Robert_Anthonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06193097822549421108noreply@blogger.com