tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post9092879460609300847..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: Slow ProgressAngeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-70438481401369282802014-01-08T15:25:07.691-06:002014-01-08T15:25:07.691-06:00Have you considered corporal punishment? My wife a...Have you considered corporal punishment? My wife and I have been on our FLR journey for a couple of years and have experienced many of the ups and downs that you have. About 6 months ago, we agreed to add spanking to our relationship and it has had a huge positive effect. <br /><br />We have a disciplinary session once per week where I get 20 swats as a base and additional swats for transgressions during the previous week. My wife reviews the mistakes I have made or things I have forgotten or done poorly and adds additional swats using her judgement on what she thinks the transgressions deserve.<br /><br />It really helps to reinforce our roles (no more petulant "whatevers" from me!), definitely serves as a deterrent, and allows my wife to feel like she has addressed the issues without becoming frustrated. We also have agreed to a punishment session (vs a disciplinary session described above), where I would get a severe spanking if I really screw up or disrespect her. She has warned me that if I get one of those, I will really regret it and I believe it. It is amazing what that threat can do to temper an ill-advised outburst...<br /><br />Anyway, good luck, I thought I would just share something that has worked for us.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13481841577940051785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-51665554064086664462014-01-07T23:31:08.517-06:002014-01-07T23:31:08.517-06:00Of course, he's not a child and you don't ...Of course, he's not a child and you don't want a relationship with an immature man. But he's a sub and he has duties as well as needs. His duty is to serve you, to obey you but his need is to be controlled and feel your authority.<br />As a dom, you also have requirements and duties. The requirement to be obeyed but also the duty to respond his needs. FLR is an exchange. I encourage you to punish him. It's an act of love. You don't have to beat him, corner time, privation of sex, of free time, written assignment, etc. Be creative. FLR is also a pleasure of creation.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10444133517813048044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-79734299490541137612014-01-07T21:24:28.907-06:002014-01-07T21:24:28.907-06:00I think that with all the past experience you two ...I think that with all the past experience you two have with FLR you can see now that there is a disconnect if you are not actively in the FLR. He clearly needs and wants it even if he still struggles to accept it and as you pointed out you want the closeness that you two share when you are active with it, so I would say continue to step it up, keep him in line, don't let anything get lax. It could be that he won't fully relax or come into his own as the submissive in the FLR until he truly feels your total control over him. I am glad to see you two are back.Mistress Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17378867322387589081noreply@blogger.com