tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post996883513225749485..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: We Are Back.Angeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-36430511186786089352012-10-17T13:42:32.171-05:002012-10-17T13:42:32.171-05:00Thanks for your comments, Jake. You are correct - ...Thanks for your comments, Jake. You are correct - communication can be a stumbling block for us. My Knight has a difficult time expressing his feelings, needs, and desires. <br /><br />Our marriage was not in trouble when I suspended our flr agreement. Things were going better than they had in years. I suspended the flr because I wasn't convinced my Knight was content with the arrangement. Comments he made during our twice a month evaluations made me believe he was only agreeing to the flr in order to keep the peace. <br /><br />The trouble started (restarted, if you read our back story) AFTER I suspended the flr. No more than 12-15 hours after. <br /><br />My Knight's comment about orgasm control and denial reminding him of his ex was not meant to be a nasty, cutting comment. He was being honest, exactly like I asked him to. The interpretation of that comment was mine. His ex is/was seriously mentally ill with an illness that causes hallucinations, paranoid behavior,and lots of weirdness. That woman gave him a new definition of hell. So, it's natural that things come up that from my standpoint are innocent and fun.. but remind him of her craziness. It doesn't happen often... but it does happen. <br /><br />We've reinstated our flr, and I promised him I will never suspend it unless he specifically asks. At the same time, we are talking about why it works for us, and what each of us gets from it. I feels like we're going in circles... but I do think we're learning about each other in the process.Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-5233695888927455642012-10-16T11:37:48.504-05:002012-10-16T11:37:48.504-05:00Dear Angelique,
I think you should recognize the ...Dear Angelique,<br /><br />I think you should recognize the fact that YOU didn't screw up HE did. I recall in past posts how you've tried to get the man to communicate with you but to no avail. Nothing has changed on that front IMO.<br /><br />There are countless men out there who ache to submit to their wives, and if they are lucky enough to be married to a woman wants to assume the dominant role, believe me... they will have NO trouble communicating the feelings which have been simmering within for their entire lives. I know of what I speak, because that's where I once hailed from.<br /><br />Take a step back and look at your situation objectively. <br /><br />1. You want your marriage to succeed regardless of any D/s dynamic.<br /><br />2. When you gave him what he said he wanted, he repaid you with a cutting remark.<br /><br />3. You pulled back so as not to become "his ex", and to save your marriage.<br /><br />And what happened???? He sulked like a child, refused to apologize, and somehow made YOU out to be the party at fault.<br /><br />I'm glad that things are on the mend now and I'm not trying to cause turmoil in your relationship. But it seems to me that if history is any guide, his inability to communicate will cause further trouble in the days ahead. I think that this is something you really need to address for the health of your marriage.<br /><br />Best,<br /><br />JakeJakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05717498717573337313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-54690656330458116442012-10-11T06:52:48.996-05:002012-10-11T06:52:48.996-05:00wbwbWalter H. Schulze IIIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00137440229102629342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-87439858030161682732012-10-10T20:51:52.250-05:002012-10-10T20:51:52.250-05:00The few times that my wife has whipped me, she has...The few times that my wife has whipped me, she has spoilt it un intentionally by asking things like "is that enough" or "is that what you wanted". OK she is inexperienced at the dominant thing.<br /><br />What I wanted was for her to decide.<br /><br />Sound like your husband is like that.<br /><br />Anyway, glad you recognised it.<br /><br />Good lucksubmanhubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04979339663861061771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-76125977247097877192012-10-09T18:51:47.565-05:002012-10-09T18:51:47.565-05:00Such interruptions are not unusual. Very happy You...Such interruptions are not unusual. Very happy You resolved the issue and have your FLR back on track. Conflict and reconciliation are good lessons for Your children. Since Your daughter is coming of age where boys will try to take advantage of Her, we hope You can find a way to make this a learning opportunity for Her. Now, or in the near future, Your daughter should become the Queen in waiting. She should be learning to take partial control of Your knight. She certainly should be learning how to control Her young knights.<br /><br />We are glad you are back.<br /><br /> dualpurposehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06209961346891113125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-71419662838989271202012-10-09T13:43:56.078-05:002012-10-09T13:43:56.078-05:00Welcome back! I have missed you two. You've ju...Welcome back! I have missed you two. You've just validated what we always say about the importance of communication in a marriage.MsNaydihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-57525369323879722022012-10-09T13:27:51.959-05:002012-10-09T13:27:51.959-05:00Welcome back, I've missed reading your blog!Welcome back, I've missed reading your blog!Robert_Anthonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06193097822549421108noreply@blogger.com