tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post1237714162090018914..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: On the Fence about Orgasm Denial. Angeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-43297469199289462032014-01-07T09:06:52.851-06:002014-01-07T09:06:52.851-06:00I am in the midst of blogging about this myself. ...I am in the midst of blogging about this myself. I too am 'conflicted' in that I like to orgasm but I like to be denied too. As an otherwise logical person, this causes some internal stress. Sometimes when I am denied, I REALLY want to come and am disappointment that she didn't give me that release. Other times, she decides to give me an orgasm when I would like to be denied further. Weird!<br /><br />I find that when my wife climaxes and she teases but denies me, my emotional and intimacy needs are met, maybe even better than when we both climax. I feel like she "understands" me and my kinks. It's as if I NEED her to climax but I simply WANT to climax myself.<br /><br />When I am denied, I feel energetic and I pursue "courtship behavior". I am nicer to her and feel like when we were first dating. When I climax, I feel spent and sometimes even irritable. The pleasure of the orgasm (most times) doesn't outweigh the drawbacks.<br /><br />I will say that I NEED the teasing though. The rush I get from being naked and her playing with me, edging me, it's fantastic. Oh, and I guess I should mention, that not knowing if I will come, and her having the power to make that decision, is a huge turnon for me as a sub. Maybe that's what happened in his prior relationship? Not having any intimate play very quickly leads to depression and anxiety for me. Not fun at all.lovetosubmithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04255078782896892207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-24219973883857607472014-01-04T18:08:35.186-06:002014-01-04T18:08:35.186-06:00I agree with wishful4. My feelings are exactly the...I agree with wishful4. My feelings are exactly the same. I don't mind being denied, and actually want it, even though at the moment it heppens, it feels frustrating. What I actually hate is when instead of active denial, I get ignored (Sexually ignored, I mean). I wish Miss V (my wife) would do something, anything, even if it is to ask me to stand in the corner and bring myself to an edge. The fact that I'm doing it at her command would make it denial, even if she didn't put a finger on me.'<br /><br />I would suggest that you take the opt-out option off the table, since it is obvious that he doesn't want out, and start asking for privileges in exchange of granting him his wish of controlling his orgasms. If he is anything like me, he would gladly "pay" for the chance to be teased and denied. <br /><br />The key for you is to enjoy yourself, so whatever you do, or have him do to you or with you, make sure you are as pleased as possible. Then, tease him often, letting him know you are teasing him, and have fun with it. It should not be hard work for you. Think about ways to make it easier, and if you are not in the mood, you can always have him do the work for you.<br /><br />Good luckvs-boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-62840308609475755602014-01-03T09:23:16.062-06:002014-01-03T09:23:16.062-06:00After reading your post, I don't see his react...After reading your post, I don't see his reactions as all that unusual. I believe what he is trying to say is simply that the intimacy between you means much more to him than whether he gets to orgasm or not. He just craves the intimacy and closeness of any kind with you. Holding hands, teasing, kissing, cuddling, it's all good. No attention of any kind kills him. My spouse is a little under the weather with a bad cold right now and is definitely not in the mood for play. I'm really missing the daily playful intimacy with her, not an orgasm. Not that unusual.Wishful4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02244435462944676133noreply@blogger.com