tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post4702267382872172494..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: Nees vs WantsAngeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-81028064325221295092022-03-03T21:59:44.959-06:002022-03-03T21:59:44.959-06:00Harrah's Reno - Mapyro
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The inability ...(continued from previous comment) <br /><br />The inability to act without instructions is a tougher one and the solutions are a bit juvenile but effective. For things like the dishes and cooking example, having him keep a daily chore chart (making one that spans a week is better if certain days include regular things that aren't present during the rest of the week, e.g. Wednesday pick up dry cleaning. At the end of the day you would sign off on it noting that things were either completed or incomplete. Attaching some form of incentives or punishments is needed to give the chart some weight and punishments are probably more appropriate if they are things he already knows he's supposed to do. After a while with the chart, it will ideally train him to keep everything on the list in the back of his mind at all times and be more aware that he must find the time to take care of them, especially if he knows it will be unpleasant if he doesn't. The upside of this method is that it requires relatively little work on your part, and a lot more work on his. <br /><br />As for training independence, proactive thinking, and acting in anticipation of your needs, that can be relatively easy as well, but will probably require a carrot of some sort. Let him know you want him to start acting more independently in that manner and give him some examples. Each time he correctly anticipates your needs and acts without instruction, give him X "points." If he tries to anticipate them and does poorly (or if you can sense he is simply trying to earn more points in an empty way), subtract Y points. If he reaches Z points, he receives some form of reasonable reward. How to track this is up in the air, but a notepad would work or if you wanted to make it a ritual, coins, poker chips, beads, etc. are other options. <br /><br />e.g. If he brings you that herbal remedy at the proper time without being asked, he earns 2 coins. At 10 coins he gets a reward. If he does something wrong or at the wrong time, subtract 1 coin. <br /><br />The penalty should be lesser than the reward in order to encourage effort rather than discourage it. The reward can be something very benign (e.g. an activity you both enjoy) but it will feel more important because he "earned" it by acting outside of his normal self. <br /><br />This too takes relatively little effort on your part and puts most of the weight on him. As long as you notice it when it happens, doing something small like writing +2 with your initials in his notepad is a relatively minor price to pay for his overall behavior evolving. <br /><br />Unfortunately the planning for these types of things seems to fall into the woman even if the labor is done by the man. I hope this could help.<br /><br />Take care. fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-57734165537078757592016-05-17T18:57:07.240-05:002016-05-17T18:57:07.240-05:00I know this post is a few months old now, but than...I know this post is a few months old now, but thank you for sharing.<br /><br />I struggle quite a bit with severe depression and go unmedicated. It can put some stress on our relationship but the FLR-D/s dynamic is a great stabilizing point for me that helps keep things in check. I will admit it is somewhat of a heavy burden to place on her.<br /><br />Hopefully this wave of things has passed by now, but if you are faced with a similar situation where you will be separated for more than a day while his depression is kicking up, I have a suggestion that might work in the future. Give him a daily assignment that centers around you that can be sent via email. It could be the same assignment each day or mixing things up. The purpose of the assignment should be to get him out of his head and thinking about you, so keeping them open-ended is often a good thing. A few ideas:<br />-Find a picture that he thinks will make you happy, send that and write at least X number of words about why he chose it. <br />-Write about something he could do for you when you get back that would make you smile.<br /><br />You could give him a time/deadline you wanted it sent by if you wanted to, and/or "grade" his work (A-F, pass/fail, etc.). <br /><br />A sub's depression spiral can get pretty bad. We get wrapped up in it and lose focus. When this is pointed out, we feel guilty for it and the guilt feeds the depression and so on. The assignments should force him to get out of his head and get focused on you. <br /><br />(I hit the reply word limit, to be continued)fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.com