tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post4872670898171484809..comments2023-10-30T05:13:10.006-05:00Comments on A Queen and her Knight: I Am Such A Different Person Than I Was Ten Years AgoAngeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-53591279372703653692015-04-03T23:34:11.855-05:002015-04-03T23:34:11.855-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16317760405495552727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-71809265913114110752015-04-03T16:12:39.317-05:002015-04-03T16:12:39.317-05:00I remember a post not so many months ago where you...I remember a post not so many months ago where you stated how you were going to start very simply and very slowly to teach your knight how to be the submissive husband that you want him to be. My guess is that in the busyness of your life that simple "beginning" never really took place and so your left where you are-frustrated because the process of change in him is so slow. I would pick just one thing and get him to do that one thing well, then move onto the second thing while not forgetting to reinforce the first and to complement and/or correct when things start to slip. Like Robert Anthony I felt so sad for you when reading this post.I'm-Hershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04303339046471886645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-18612139901282210952015-04-03T15:36:35.826-05:002015-04-03T15:36:35.826-05:00I am very concerned that, because you are a very c...I am very concerned that, because you are a very compassionate and loving person, you are literally being smothered by your relationship with Knight. I really don't think he realizes what he is doing to you or he would make an effort to change things. The FLR should be about your happiness, fulfilling your needs, and making your life easier. But Knight's issues and his lack of communication with you are making your FLR all about his issues and his happiness. I certainly hope you can affect a change and I sure would like to grab Knight by the shoulders, shake the crap out of him and say, "wake up". You could lose the best thing you ever had. Most of us just dream about having a spouse so invested in an FLR as you are. Certainly hope things change cause I fear things are not going to turn out well if they don't. Wish you the best!!Wishful4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02244435462944676133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-72778399527503706292015-04-03T11:07:00.255-05:002015-04-03T11:07:00.255-05:00Angelique, I am so sad to read this. Please see th...Angelique, I am so sad to read this. Please see the chapter on "Conversation": http://www.scribd.com/doc/207590365/ You need to go beyond play and really start to change his thinking so that you can return to being the fun person you were.Fumika Misatohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588157857598748010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-33285168617758274732015-04-03T10:47:55.920-05:002015-04-03T10:47:55.920-05:00This post was meant to be introspective. I tend to...This post was meant to be introspective. I tend to talk about what knight does to create distance between us. I need to take a look at My part in our difficulties. Cutting large parts of myself off from him causes distance, too.<br /><br />Not sharing parts of myself with him is on me.<br /><br />The behavior that caused me to feel that I had to.....THAT is on him.Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-38273780758209925762015-04-03T10:45:10.810-05:002015-04-03T10:45:10.810-05:00I'm not unhappy. Joy comes from inside, not ou...I'm not unhappy. Joy comes from inside, not outside. I have . many things to be happy and content about. My marriage is only one aspect of my life. Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-49812044675324327412015-04-03T10:27:57.659-05:002015-04-03T10:27:57.659-05:00I have talked to him about this many, many times o...I have talked to him about this many, many times over the years. His response is always the same - silence- just like any other issue. I talked to him about it last night, and again this morning. He made no comment. Said nothing. <br /><br />This morning, I sent him an email that said, "Why don't you have anything to say about what I said last night and this morning?"<br /><br />He answered me with, "I can not figure out anything to say or do to help fix things, babe...*sigh*<br /><br />...love you."<br /><br />More of the same.Angeliquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079421215693265281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-12491843171892411512015-04-03T09:30:32.563-05:002015-04-03T09:30:32.563-05:00I wish you Knight would comment on this. He might ...I wish you Knight would comment on this. He might feel it completely different. Then you could have a real talk.<br />I wish both of you all the best.<br /><br />appyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801531430325788593.post-28650920232129639962015-04-03T09:16:19.487-05:002015-04-03T09:16:19.487-05:00Angelique, reading your posts always makes me feel...Angelique, reading your posts always makes me feel sad for you. I wish your Knight would wake up and see how much he hurts you, how thoughtless he is. I'm not sure that blaming yourself over and over is entirely healthy to be honest. I really wish I could offer some advice to help you change things and make your life happier...Robert_Anthonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06193097822549421108noreply@blogger.com