Monday, December 1, 2014

Thanksgiving Holiday

We had a nice Thanksgiving holiday. My oldest daughter came home on Weds, she's leaving to go back to school and work tomorrow morning. An old friend came down to join my family for the holiday. I haven't seen her in 20 some odd years. It was great to spend the day catching up. Daughter number 2 joined us for part of the day via video chat technology. It's been a pleasant week.

As usual during such times I've been struggling to maintain the level of flr that knight seems to need. When things are going well, it's a challenge for me to focus on maintaining that show of power that he needs. If things are going well, and knight is caught up on his tasks, what is there for me to show? I know that kind of thinking is what gets us into trouble, and I'm working on it. I'm just not sure how to best remind him of the power dynamic when things are going well.

For his part, knight is doing well right now, although he's been a little distant over the last day or so. I think he's feeling the lack of obvious power play. I'd like to come up with something we can do tonight after the kids go to bed, but it's not likely to happen. We all have to leave the house tomorrow morning at 4 to get oldest daughter to the airport for her flight. He's going to have to wait until tomorrow evening.

Knight has been completing his tasks, and doing as I ask. On Thanksgiving Day knight took over in the kitchen, and entertained her son so my friend and I could spend some time talking and catching up. He did this without my having to ask.  Yesterday knight was unsure of what I wanted from him at one particular moment. It was obvious to all of us that he was struggling.. but, he turned to me and very plainly told me "I don't know what you want me to do right now." I told him and he went off to do it. Oldest Daughter looked at me a little funny, but didn't say anything, and she and I went back t what we were doing.  I was proud of my knight for clearly telling me that he was unsure instead of flipping from task to task like he sometimes does.

Even though I've been careful to give knight detailed instructions while Oldest Daughter has been here, I get the very definite impression that he wants more overt control from me. I'm still learning how to give him what he's looking for.

4 comments:

  1. Have you ever considered making him wear a chastity device? Once locked, it will serve as a constant reminder to him that you are in control. make it clear to him that he must submit to you and serve you at all times, if he is to be granted a release. You don't always need to let him orgasm when he's released, in fact arousing him and then locking him back up, will make him even more obedient and willing to serve you.

    Every small touch of his cage by your hand or foot will remind him that you hold the key and are in control.....

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  2. I've thought about it, but I really don't want to make him wear a chastity device. I control his orgasms, and he's not allowed to masturbate without my express permission. (and he does follow both those rules). Someday, I might change my mind, but for right now, he doesn't wear a device because I don't want him to.

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  3. I would love you and my wife to meet. :)

    Here are my thoughts.
    Talk.
    To me any relationship has to work for both. Like me, your husband has submissive tendencies. The idea though is that those tendencies should be channelled to the benefit of the dominant but not in a way that results in the dominant having to do more and more work.

    To me personally and maybe your man, I would say tell him either what to do or how to do it but not both. I note you talked about how he had asked for clear direction and I would agree with that. To me women are masters of vagueness and uncertainty. It makes me really comfortable when I know exactly what my wife wants.

    When it comes to sex. Tease & denial. No orgasm keeps up the sexual tension & energy. The tease says "I love you" It says I am taking the time to be with you.

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  4. And that is all that I have to say about that.
    Actually I said a lot more, but was unable to post it all. Is there another address to which I could send it? As I stated below, I would also like to ask you some questions regarding herbal treatment options for some issues I am facing.

    I would like to talk to you about some alternative treatment for some physical ailments if possible.

    I will close with the immortal words of Mr. Spock, “Live long and prosper”.

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