I wonder if talking to real people who are in a FLR would help me to stay on track and remember what I'm supposed to be doing here. I have found that I get busy with the day-to-day and forget to take my place as leader. With my knight working nights, it's easy to go on about my day and forget.
I need some sort of reminder that I am responsible for taking the leadership role with my knight. With him working nights it's easy to fall into taking care of house, kids, and my businesses and forget to manage my knight as well.
Last week I pretty much ignored the whole FLR thing without meaning to. My knight came home from work, we talked for 20 min or so and I sent him to bed. I woke him up in time for dinner and bedtime routines with the kids. We saw each other for a total of 3 hours, and during that time we were both occupied with kid related tasks. As soon as the kids are in bed, it's time for my knight to to leave for work. That leaves no time for much of anything.
We both missed the tease/denial game we had going on. At the same time the week I did that it was a lot of work and although I enjoyed the game, I didn't get much benefit from it. Actually, I started to resent it a little bit because I was doing *everything* from housework to cooking to kid care to running our businesses AND making the time to wake him up several times a day for a quick tease session. But.. when my knight was awake, he was too busy and tired to do much of anything.
When he was working day shift we didn't have that problem FLR was easy, natural and comfortable for both of us. I wanted to add the tease/denial to the mix because we have enjoyed it the handful of times I've introduced it as a game.
I need suggestions on making this work with him working nights. How do you go about finding *local* people who live the FLR life?