Locked Husband has a poll up asking the
guys if anyone other than their wives knows they're locked. While I
don't lock my Knight, the question got me thinking about FLR, in
general. Have you shared your FLR or D/s status with close friends
or family? Is it obvious from the way you two interact in public that
she's in charge? Guys, do you change how you react to your lady when
you're out? How do you feel about your male friends knowing you
submit to her? Does it matter? Do they hassle you about it? How does
your lady feel about people knowing your dynamic? I'm curious.
As for us, when we're out my Knight
doesn't change his behavior. He still defers to me, looks to me for
confirmation and approval when needed. He's even been known to look
at me for approval before helping women at church carry things. No
words between us are needed --Just a glance in my direction and a
barely visible nod from me. He's even asked me, “Do you want me to
help her?” I never mind.. actually I'm proud that it's MY husband
who has the reputation for being the sweetie who helps out.
It's been that way since Day 1. Friends
who have known us for years come to me if they need technical help
from my Knight. His best friend has been known to call me and ask,
“Hey, can I borrow him for something?” Heck even people who have
only known us a short time must pick up on our dynamic because many
of those people come to me if they want a favor from him. It's just
the natural order for us, I guess, even though it took me so long to
realize it. Our kids even pick up on it – I get asked 10 times a
day, “Mommy, can Daddy play (any game) with us?” or “Can Daddy
help me with this?” It never occurred to me just how much FLR
permeates our life.
I think friends and many acquaintances
understood his “submission” to me before I did. Even my mother
said something to me years ago. She and I are not close, and talk
fairly infrequently, we see each other even less. But, she was at
visiting us one day about 5 years ago and made the comment that I
shouldn't let him do so much for me because he'd resent it. I think
that was the 2nd time she'd met my Knight.
Those of you who have read my past
posts know that I wasn't looking for a FLR, heck I just learned the
term a few months ago! Before FLR my typical response was.. “What
are you looking at me for. Make up your own mind,” or, “Do what
you want, baby.”
Sometimes I wonder what the people who
suspect say about us behind our backs, but people will always talk.
And as long as he and I are comfortable with our dynamic, nothing
else really matters.
Mistress R and I aren't in an FLR as such, we are equals outside the bedroom so it doesn't really come up.
ReplyDeleteKatie an I have discussed telling others but she likes it just the way it is. If people ask questions she deals with it but would never use words like domme and sub to describe how we relate. I personally would like others to know but I think her way of thinking is best for now.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the mention! Our FLR is fairly tame, and not something we share with others (not unlike my wearing a device). I think the kids see it a bit, but not in a very obvious way.
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