Thursday, February 7, 2013

Approaching 60,000

This blog is approaching 60,000 pageviews. When I started this, I never expected anybody to read what I had to say. I started QnK as a way to talk to myself and work out the changes I was initiating in my marriage. I wanted some sort of written record to refer back to when I was unsure if we were on the right path - and I didn't want it on my laptop where my kids could find it. This blog has served that purpose, and many more besides. I have learned a lot from the people who read this blog, and from the blogs I read regularly.

I've decided that I need to do something to celebrate the 60,000th pageview.  So... I am holding a contest. I think I've mentioned that I make all natural herbal products. One of the products I made is massage oil that doesn't run. When stored below 70 degrees, it is semi- solid. When you get some from the jar and rub it between your hands, it turns liquid. I came up with the recipe because I hate typical runny massage oil. It's runny, it never stays where you want it, and it makes a mess on the sheets. My coordination isn't always the best because of the M.S, and I have accidentally dumped a half bottle of my favorite oil all over our bed more than once. So... I created my own.

The contest winner (s) will receive ONE 8oz container of my homemade massage oil in the scent and strength you choose. The winner will be announced Saturday, Feb 16, 2013 and the oil will be shipped that same day, or the following Monday.

Contest details: Tell me your  favorite scent or type of massage oil, and why it's your favorite. There is no need to be graphic -this isn't an erotica writing contest. You may either post your answer in the comments section OR email to me at

I will randomly chose one or two entries from among my 20 favorite answers.

Monday, February 4, 2013

So Proud

I am so very proud of my Knight. We are currently doing another round of orgasm denial.  His last orgasm was Christmas night, so including today it's been 41 days. That is the longest he's gone without an  "oops" with me intentionally teasing and playing. In the past there has been an "oops" between 20 and 30 days.

What changed? I think I did. Shortly after I started this round of denial, I told him that I expected there to be no more "oops" at all. Ever. I explained that for each round of denial, I have a goal in mind. Most of the time that goal is something solid, and measurable, like wanting to see  a certain behavior from him, sometimes the the goal is something fun for me "go X number of days," or "How long can I keep it going until I really want to see him come." I told him that it really.... really pisses me off when he screws up my goals for us with an "oops", because no matter what he tries to tell me I know it happens because he gets careless and lets it happen. Those "oops" ruin the whole thing for me.

My Knight seems to have taken me seriously, because despite my best efforts, there has been no "oops."  I'm super proud of him.

No.. I have not intentionally been trying to get him to screw it up.. but I have been trying to tease and/or initiate sex play at least every day or two. I've not let myself get so busy that I forget.  Maybe that's the difference, I don't know. It seems to me the more often we engage in sex play, the more difficult it would be to hold off the orgasm. Especially since my tease sessions tend to be long(ish) and intense. A lot of times I bring him to the edge and back down three or more times over the course of an hour or so just because I love how overly sensitive he gets. (what can I say? I love watching him squirm.)
But.... what do I know - I'm not the one living orgasm denial.

I have noticed that my Knight is more emotional and more needy when I don't tease or initiate some sort of sex play, even if it's only one or two days between.  He seems to do better when I include the tease time, even if it's only lightly playing with his cock before we fall off to sleep.

There were a couple days last week where he was not completing his daily tasks, but I changed the system to daily accountability, instead of weekly, and asked him to write the lists down on paper as well as save them in his email. So.. hopefully that will help when he gets overloaded with emergency projects at work and his head is filled with database stuff.


Knight has a thing for body piercings. I have a couple piercings that he gets to play with and take photos of when he's been really good...