Friday, May 4, 2012

The Same, but Different.


I haven't openly tested or played with my Knight's submission. Not in any kind or real way, at least. Sure, he has  a couple of household chores that I expect him to complete every night, and he knows that he is always to make sure there is at least half a tank of gas in the car on the days I'm running kids around, doing errands, or the nights I have rehearsal. I don't put gas in the car.. and If I have to do so then he is not doing his job. I expect him to make me coffee or tea every morning and he is responsible for making both our breakfasts on the days I drive him to work. But.. these are mundane and routine tasks that I know he's willing to do. So, I decided to put his submission to a (very small) test. I sent him an email telling him I would like him to start shaving his pubic hair. I told him I wanted it gone, and expect him to maintain it as well. No, not a major request, but really, it's my first request of that nature. I've hinted and joked about shaving him myself, but I never flat out told him to do it --  until now.

He did it this morning.  No questions asked. No argument or resistance. He sent me an email apologizing that he did a sloppy job with it because he was running late this morning, and he will fix it tomorrow.

Good. Now I can present him with his ring tomorrow evening when we go out. I'm planning to take him somewhere special to present the ring. I'll save the details for afterward just in case he finds his way to my blog before then.

Interestingly enough, Since we bought the ring, my Knight has been more attentive than usual. He's checked in with me before doing anything he's not completely sure of, and has made a point of being accountable to me for his time. This isn't out of the ordinary for him, but he's been more.. focused?/committed?/enthusiastic?  ... about it over the last few days. I'm not sure of the word I'm looking for, but to me it's a  sure sign he's enjoying this process.

Late yesterday I sent him an email asking if he likes being my toy and if he's looking forward to being presented with a symbol of his submission to me and my acceptance of that submission. I asked him to tell me what he's thinking about all this. In response I received a one sentence email: "Um.. yeah.. I think I am.*wink*"  Translation?  He's loving it.

And to my surprise he didn't object to the word submission. In the past when I've used the word submission/submissive in regard to my Knight, he's argued that he doesn't see it as being "submissive", only attentive, "playing to our strengths" and "the way things should be." He's always seen his role in our relationship as a promise to follow my lead, do my bidding and make my world easier-- like a romantic knight does for his Lady.  I think the more we've talked about things the more he's come to understand that being submissive is not a bad thing. It's simply who he is.












3 comments:

  1. Mistress Angelique,

    My guess from reading the tea leaves, is your husbanded had a taste of submissive pleasure when you brought him ring shopping. He recognizes he feels this pleasure when you exert your authority over him in an overt and unambiguous way. He is now seeking this pleasure by ‘checking in’ with you so he can feel it when you give him direction on some matter. For a submissive, there is no small amount of pleasure felt during these times and they quickly beginning to seek opportunities to feel it.

    Sincerely,

    -SH

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  2. SH,

    My husband has always checked in with me and asked my guidance in just about everything for as long as we've been together. It's not really a big change. In fact, I don't think anybody would notice the change except me. Something about him is different since I bought the ring. Maybe you're right. Maybe he is starting to recognize in himself what I've seen for a while now. Or maybe he's happy that I am finally recognizing what he really wants. I'm not sure. And when I asked him, my husband had absolutely no idea what I was talking about. LOL. He keeps telling me that he has not changed at all.


    A lot of the real changes here are in me. Before I embraced the FLR lifestyle I found his constant checking with me annoying. I was trying to shoehorn him into the mold of "typical guy." I took his unwillingness to make a decision without me as being indecisive,and not caring enough to make a decision or take a stand. He kept telling me that wasn't the case, and that he just wanted to make me happy.I don't think he had the experience to put what he was feeling into words. I went looking on-line as a last ditch effort to avoid a divorce to try to understand what he was trying to say and I found FLR

    Since I suggested we try FLR 9 months ago I have done a lot of reading and learning.

    Maybe he's right. Maybe all the changes are in me. Maybe I'm seeing a side of him that I never saw before because I was trying to force him to be something he wasn't.

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  3. It will be interesting if he embraces genital shaving, if he takes more pride in keeping his cock smooth. This was step one for me (genital shaving) then Katie told me to shave my ass as well. I now do both and take pride in making sure my skin is baby-skin smooth. I love keeping myself this way. I wonder if your Knight will follow the same path as I. Time will tell :)

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