On my post titled "Scheduled Review" At all Times said:
I might be wrong, but from what you are saying, I just wonder if he is just trying to manipulate you into becoming a far more strict and dominant wife then you maybe prepared for.
If he is like many submissive men, he will have in mind a way of life, a type of fantasy, in which he is subjected to various forms of ritual submissions, punishments and even humiliations. For most, this type of fantasy life is impossible to live out, unless of course, your wife is very understanding or enjoys being that dominant.
You maybe just that, but unless he doesn't really want a FLR or is not really a submissive, then I can only assume that his failure not to complete his tasks or treat you with the respect and obedience that you deserve, then he must be trying to encourage you to greater strictness and impose punishments.
During the course of my response to him.. I came to a realization. My knight's submissive desires all revolve around cuckholding and bondage.
He's shared multiple fantasies with me where I go off and and have sex with another guy and either "make him watch" or tell him about it later. Since the day we got together, I have had open permission to sleep with whomever I choose, while he understands that he is most certainly not allowed to have sex with anyone else unless I expressly give permission. He's not even allowed to flirt. (and, no, he never pushed for, or expected anything else) His only request was that I either share pictures /video with him, or tell him every last detail. (this was before we moved to flr). I've never acted on that permission. He wants me to tie him up and bring a friend so that the two of us play with each other and him while he's unable to do much about it. He comments about me "getting a boyfriend (or a girlfriend)"
Now.. here's the thing.. I'm not opposed to exploring these things with my knight, as long as I am in complete and total control of the situation. But, at the same time,I don't want to do anything that could put our marriage in jeopardy. I have told him that I will consider these things when I feel the flr portion of our relationship is strong enough to handle it. He understands that if I were to do any of these things, he would not be allowed to have any contact at all with the person outside of sessions I set up. In his ideal world, my boyfriend or girlfriend would either live really close or would actually live with us-- but that's not going to happen.
My realization was that maybe I'm approaching this wrong. My goal has to been to get the every day 24/7 part of the flr firmly established before I let him explore fantasy stuff. But.. maybe.. just maybe I should be using the fantasy stuff to help establish the 24/7 portion. No, I have no intention of going out and finding someone to join us. But, I should be using his fantasies ... teasing him with them, encouraging him to think about them.. helping to form them in his head in order to underscore the idea of my control.