I ordered knight's chastity device yesterday. I went with the Jailhouse for a couple of reasons. First, I absolutely hate the look of plastic types, like the CB 6000. It may be more comfortable and easier to wear for a first device, but I just don't like it. I want to get him a Jailbird, but I have no intention of spending over $300 on a device to experiment and play with. I still don't like the idea of putting him in a chastity device. He has followed my rule about no masturbating faithfully for 10 years. He would no more masturbate without permission than he would cheat on me. Neither are even within the realm of possibility.
So, why am I locking him up then? Entirely for the effect it will have on his mind. It's a constant reminder that I am in charge, that I control his orgasms and that I control him. I will admit that I am kind of hoping I see no change in his behavior after using the chastity device for 3 months because I'm just not thrilled about this. I feel like making him wear a chastity device takes away the trust aspect. To me, it's a very special thing knowing that he doesn't masturbate simply and only because I say so. I'm not forcing it on him, he chooses to comply out of respect for me. Once I put the device on him, I'm forcing him to comply. It is very much not the same.
But, it's obvious that my knight needs to feel my control more deeply. He wants more strict flr from me, and things are not going work the way I want them to until I make him feel that increased control. So, I'm going to give this a try and see what happens.
On a side note, my knight offered to stay home and clean the kitchen today while I take the kids to our usual Sunday afternoon family activity. I'm not sure what prompted that.. but I'll take it.
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Congratulations Angelique. he's in for an interesting ride and so are you. I totally get the reasons you that you want him to lock up. it makes total sense. Stand fast and don't let him talk you into releasing him from his cage until you are ready for him to be.
ReplyDeleteIt will be interesting to see if being locked up changes his behavior. He may feel more submissive, more controlled, more ready to serve you and please you. Since he wants you to be more strict, keeping him locked is a good way to achieve that goal. As you said, now you will see what happens. Will look forward to your updates.
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Hi Angelique
ReplyDeleteI debated whether to respond to the current posts as I have very limited experience within a FLR (less than 6 months) and no experience of orgasm control or chastity. Our dynamic is more service orientated.
What prompted my response was picking up on your reluctance at following this course of action. If I were on the receiving end and having demonstrated that I can be trusted without the requirement for a chastity device I could possibly see this as a form of mistrust. I do appreciate that there is a whole other control dynamic in this and one I don’t have a full appreciation for as yet but given his lack of communications around his thoughts and feelings on the FLR then this might cause an issue as he might keep this to himself.
I noted your comment on his offer to clean the kitchen as a step forward so why not consider a service based control strategy. Get him to give up his time (not family time) to be of service to you. You could easily build in communication activities and check points to achieve the desired outcome.
Regards DtBHC.
Ms Rika, in her book, "Uniquely Rika",states that a true submissive should be able to remain chaste without a device. I am submissive, but I haven't been able to do that beyond maybe a couple of weeks. The desire to self pleasure is too strong. The device solves that issue. For me, the device also does something else. I feel it a "sign" of her ownership of me and I am proud to wear it. It makes me feel "kept", for lack of a better term. It is also a constant reminder of her love for me and my submission to her. Hopefully, Knight will see it in a similar way and it will make him feel special and even closer to you.
ReplyDeleteI would think that whatever you do from this point forward she be all about breaking him. If you read back over your posts you do quite a bit of justification of those few good things he does amidst the misbehavior/blowing your orders off. I would look at chastity as you making him wear this when you want, for as long as you want, whenever you want - and make it nothing to do at all about masturbation but all about - "I can do this because I can". There will come a time when he will want out and that's what you need to plan for. What will you do and what will you do when he complains, or steals your key, or cuts the lock off himself.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad he cleaned the kitchen but that is but one step. I hope he does everything else you've asked as well and continues to do so.
You have your hands full :)
You will not see much of a change in his behavior since he is in unlocked chastity for so long. I also am on the honor system, and do not wear my CB 6000 too often. Mostly at night after I have not orgasmed for 2 months and my wife has said she will punish me if I have a wet dream. She keeps me without orgasm for 4 months, and last year I was not allowed to cum at all. He will ask to be let out, but do not give in. If he asks, add another month.
ReplyDeleteHe should not be offering to clean the kitchen. Sorry, but he should be taking orders from you, you should tell him to,clean the kitchen. I also do,all of the housework, washing clothes, ironing, and most meal preparation. Try telling him that next Saturdy he will be cleaning windows, floors, bathroom, kitchen and vacuuming the house. And you will go out and do what you want. He is submissive , he wants to be used. Be dominant and enjoy it, my wife does.