Shift Adjustment

I hoped to have a fun, sexy story with pics to post today, but unfortunately, that's not the case. My knight's new work schedule gives him Monday and Tuesday nights off. I planned a little something special for him for Monday night and Tuesday night, but the schedule adjustment has made him grouchy and unwilling to remember some of our basic rules. Last night was ruined by his simple neglect to check in with me before making other plans. Monday night's plans had to be canceled because of simple rudeness.

I know these issues are caused by the schedule change because they are completely out of character for him. He's feeling sad and lonely because we are on different sleep schedules. My knight gets depressed, sad, lonely, and very whiny when we can't sleep curled up together. Somewhere deep inside he seems to take it personally. On an emotional level if he can't sleep curled up around me he feels like I am disappointed him him, or mad at him, or rejecting him. He's okay one or two nights, but longer than that is a problem. I understand that, and so didn't issue a consequence for his transgressions.

But, that does not make the behavior excusable.

At the same time, it's my job to find a solution that will work for both of us. I'm working on it. Hopefully this week will go better.

His First Real Consenquence

My knight faced his first real, "Awww shit. I pissed her off" moment since we started this whole female-led marriage arrangement.

He came home from work this morning and dropped his "lunch" dishes in the sink, and then went to bed. He barely said "hi" to me or the kids at all.

I wasn't upset about him going to bed, after all, he was working while the rest of us were sleeping, and he really didn't get much sleep on Sunday. My problem was the dishes. He tossed his half empty, covered plastic storage bowls in the empty sink, when it was obvious that I was washing and prepping fruits to be put in the dehydrator. Besides, we have a rule around here that everyone is responsible for washing their own dishes. *Everyone*.. even my 5 yr old washes their own food dishes. I was pots and pans for the younger kids and after family meals, but individual dishes are the responsibility of the user.


And that includes my husband.

I was fuming. It seems like a little thing, but before FLR he had a habit of leaving dishes, clothes, messes, etc where ever they happened to fall until I came along to clean it up. Needless to say that got really old after a very short time.

Today, I started to get angry. I felt taken advantage of. But, then I remembered the whole FLR thing.. I didn't have to get angry. I could simply hand down a consequence.

And that's exactly what I did. I saved every single dish the kids and I used for the rest of the day, and had my knight wash them for me when he got up. I told him we would not go out tonight and he would not help me shop tonight for our daughter's 6th birthday tomorrow if the dishes were not done when dinner was over.

The dishes are done. And the whole incident is over. Before FLR I would have been angry and hurt, and we probably would have ended up arguing over those stupid plastic storage containers.

But not this time.

Adjusting to a New Schedule

We've just gotten the hang of this female-led marriage arrangement (I think, anyway) and things are changing. My knight started working the overnight shift. His first overnight "day" was Saturday night. He worked from 11pm until 8 am  after being up all day with me and the kids. We helped run a chess tournament and did family stuff all day, and then he took off for work without even a nap. This morning he came home and went to church with me and the kids. Our son was playing in the string group and even though I gave him permission to stay home my knight requested to come along anyway. He didn't want to miss kiddo's first string performance. As soon as kiddo was done playing, I ordered my knight to go sleep in our car until we were done.

Right now, I am contemplating a plan of action for making sure my knight gets enough sleep, while maintaining our newly found order. Knowing him, he will need my guidance and instruction NOW more than he typically does. He does not think clearly when he's tired. I will work on finding a routine which allows him enough sleep time but still gives us time together, and gives him time with the kids.

We'll see how this works out. AND I need to tell him to pWe've just gotten the hang of this female-led marriage arrangement (I think, anyway) and things are changing. My knight started working the overnight shift. His first overnight "day" was Saturday night. He worked from 11pm until 8 am  after being up all day with me and the kids. We helped run a chess tournament and then didull a slip from the consequence box. I asked my knight to clean out the fridge yesterday while I went grocery shopping. He did the job.. but he did a bad job of it.  How are we going to find time for rewards or consequences with him working nights?? Typically our private time for such things has been at night, after the kids go to bed. If he's at work, how will this pan out?

Only time will tell, I guess.

Even though I messed it up at the end, last night was sweet and special. Two days ago, I sent my knight a series of texts that read:

"Tonight, I am taking pictures of my hands around your hard cock for queenandknight. After I get the pics, I want your mouth on my tits, and your hand deep inside me. Make me come until I tell you to stop. Then,snuggle up, with your hand on my tit. You'll have to wait until later for yours"

 That night was busy and hectic. We didn't get to bed until much later than I had intended, and he gets up for work at 430am. I told him he needs his sleep and we would reschedule our playtime for the next night. He sighed, obviously disappointed, but snuggled up and played with my tits until he feel asleep. 

The next day passed uneventfully and we went to bed early. Stretched out next to my knight, I  casually reached down and grabbed his cock. Slowly I played and massaged until he was hard. I got up from our bed and retrieved the clove massage oil I make just for him, and the camera. I snapped a couple pictures of the oil making it's way from his down his cock to his balls. Then, I ran a fingernail up the path the oil took, finally wrapping my hand around the head of of his cock. I swirled his cock-head in the palm of my hand, spreading the oil. Then, I pulled back and took several pictures. 

When I was done with the pictures, I said, "You know these pics are going on my blog for everyone to see, right? Complete strangers will see your hard cock covered in oil, with my hand around it."

I put the camera and the oil on my bedside table and added, "And they'll know that I didn't let you do anything with it."

I made my way back to bed. As I reached the bed he reached out and pulled me toward him. His mouth found my nipple at the same time as his hand found my pussy. As he worked me toward my first orgasm I reached out and took his cock in both of my hands, rubbing gently. After a few minutes, I stopped and gave full concentration to my orgasm. 

As my shudders stopped, I laid my knight on his back and straddled his cock. Gently, I kissed his lips, forehead, cheeks and neck. Then, I lowered myself to take his hard, large cock deep inside me.  I  sat there for a few minutes while he rubbed my sides, stomach and tits. I love the way he feels inside me, and could be totally satisfied having him rest deep inside me. 

Finally, I started rocking and swaying. Small movements at first, and then larger and harder circles. After a few minutes I had my second orgasm, this one sent ripples through my entire body. I gave him a little break, and then slid down his body and took his cock deep into my mouth so the head of his cock was against the back of my throat. He shivered. I sucked, nibbled and teased until he was almost ready to come. Then, I moved to straddle his thighs. His cock rested against my pussy, giving him a much needed break. I leaned over and kissed him. As I did his hand found my most sensitive spot and went to work. I moved to give

him access to my tits. It was like this that I had my third and forth orgasms. My hands found his hardness and he almost came with me, but I stopped him just in time.

I moved and curled up next to him with the intention of letting him go soft in my hands as we fell asleep. But sometimes even the best intentions take a wrong turn. I gently massaged his cock and ball pulling them away from his body in the way that usually helps him calm down. He started shaking and I knew he was going to come no matter what I did, so I took his cock in both my hands and brought him to a hard and intense orgasm. As my knight shuddered in my arms, I decided that next time I'll use one of my scarves around his balls and cock to help him hold back.

 

He's Not The Only One Who Has to Learn

For the first year of so of our relationship my knight thanked me every time after every single orgasm. In my, more traditional experience, that was weird, and I eventually asked him to stop. I also thought it was odd when he commented that he believed if he didn't get laid it was because he probably didn't "deserve it." He mentioned having to "earn sex" more than once.

Yeah.. he dropped a lot of hints as to what he wanted from me, didn't he.

So.. now that we've (finally) agreed to this female led marriage arrangement, I need to readjust my thinking a bit. I've always been into seeing him happy. My knight has always gone out of his way to do things for me and to see to my comfort. I'm starting to understand that the times he has not done so was most likely a lack of understanding as to what would make me happy or comfortable.

In the past, I have often gotten into the habit of taking care of him sexually while ignoring my own desires. Mostly because my knight's emotional needs are very closely tied to how physically close we are. If I don't touch him as I walk by, or if I sit apart from him on the couch, he assumes I am somehow unhappy with him.

But, with this new arrangement I am seeing that I need to take a greater control in the bedroom and give him opportunities to earn his release, maybe even bring back his inclination to thank me after sex to underline the point that I am in control of when and if he releases. There have been several times recently, and in fact he gets into the habit of, forgetting to make sure I orgasm at least once before he does. It's been an ongoing challenge between us. He'll put me first for months and then all of a sudden my needs seem completely non existent to him. That continues until I just stop having sex with him because it has become an exercise in frustration.

I won't let that happen anymore. I told him this morning that I want to start teaching him about tantric sex. We've discussed it a couple of times, but never really put any effort into it. Mostly because of lack of effort on his part.This time will be different. I've known a couple of guys who become multi-orgasmic using tantric methods. I want that for him. I want that for us.  I also want him to pay more attention to the fact that I if I don't orgasm at least twice I'm just not satisfied.

 Yes, my sweet knight, this will be a learning experience for us both.

Rewards and Consequences

I've decided we need a reward and consequence system. I've decided to create 2 boxes. Each box will contain at least 10 paper slips. One box will hold rewards, and the other consequences.

When my sweet knight has done something to particularly please me I will instruct him to take one or more slips from the reward box. He's not allowed to look in the box as he chooses his reward slips. I will give him, or allow him whatever is written on that slip. When the reward has been granted he will return the slip to the box.

When he's done something to disappoint or anger me he will be instructed to choose one or more slips from the consequence box. When the required consequences have been fulfilled he will return the slip to the box.

I have asked him to write out 5 consequences and 5 rewards for himself, and I have also written out 5 of each. I've not seen what he's come up with yet but here are my ideas.

Rewards:

• A "freebie" blow job. 
• Money to spend at the adult toy store on whatever he wishes
• Time for a naughty photoshoot of his choice
• 2 hours playing video games on a Saturday 
• Time to himself for a photography excursion. Can be with or without me.. his choice. Amount of time allowed is determined by me.

Consequences:

• Change the cat boxes
• Watch me pleasure myself. He can not touch me,or himself, and he can't grab the camera. He can cuddle with me afterwards, but only if I ask him to. No sex until the next day.
• I will refuse to touch him for a specific number of days. (number of days is determined by me when he picks this consequence. It will be based on the severity of the infraction)
• I will assign him extra chores
• He must sleep on his own side of the bed instead of curled up with me like he usually does. 

Feel free to make suggestions in the comments section. 

Orgasm control

I am experimenting with orgasm control with my husband. As part of our arrangement he has agreed not to masturbate without my express permission and not to orgasm without my okay.

I don't deny him often -- I happen to enjoy watching him come and usually he gets that release at least 4 times a week. But, sometimes  I enjoy playing and teasing for several days before I allow him to release.

Saturday was one such day. Before we got out of bed Saturday morning I spent a good long time playing with his cock. I used my mouth and hands to bring him almost to orgasm and then stopped for a few minutes to let him calm down. After three or four times of this I told him, to enjoy it because that's all he was getting for now, I was just playing with him. I pulled him close to me and let him play with my nipples for a while. When his raging hard on started to ease I started all over again.

As we were getting up he asked me why I like this game so much. I like this game because I like what it does to his energy. When I keep him going like this he is more attentive to the things and people around him. He's more sensitive when I touch him, too. Plus, the longer I keep him in suspense, the harder and more intense it is for him when I finally let him come. I love watching him get so into the sensations of his body that he loses track of everything else.  He only lets go like that when I play, tease and deny him for a while.